A couple of years ago, I was sharing a stage with Supercoach Academy faculty member Dr. Robert Holden and he asked the audience a very interesting question.
Imagine how strange it would be if someone came to me and said “Hey, coach – I want to hire you to help me get a nose. I used to have one when I was younger, but then some bad things happened to me and I lost it. I’ve heard that a lot of people found their nose when they became self-employed. Do you think I should change my job? What about my relationship? I thought that I finally found my nose when we first got together, but after a while I realized it wasn’t working so I’m thinking of trying again with somebody else.”
Now, I understand that if your own well-being still looks like it comes to you from the outside in, what I’m saying might sound a bit flip. But imagine for a moment that it were true.
When you understand that well-being is not something you have to go out and find and not something you can ever really lose, you discover a deeper sense of peace – a kind of an easy, comfortable contentment that doesn’t go away just because bad things happen. And in a way, that’s what well-being really is – a sense of all being well, no matter what happens to be going on in your life.
(By the way, after several years of using this analogy with clients and on seminars, a woman came up to me at a public event and told me quite proudly that she’d been born without a nose. She did seem quite happy about it, though… 🙂
Have fun, learn heaps, and may all your success be fun!