Three Things I Know to Be True (#965)

Today’s tip was inspired by the amazing TED talk “If I should have a daughter…” by Sara Kay. Find, make, or steal the 18 minutes to watch it as soon as you can!

One of the themes in pretty much all principles-based coach, therapist, or teacher training is that the most impactful things we share are those things we know to be true beyond a shadow of a doubt. We see them not with certainty, which at a moments notice can be converted back to the doubt from whence it came, but with clarity – the capacity of consciousness to see what is real in real time.

That’s why what we have to share can change from client to client and from group to group – what is clearly apparent to us in one moment might be obscured from view in the next. Rather than reach back into the memory of a truth once seen, we have the opportunity each time we open our mouths to share the truth as we see it right here, right now.

So while writing a list with the title “three things I know to be true” may seem to evoke a fixed list of ideas, it’s actually just a record of a temporary insight into some permanent truths. If I were to write it again tomorrow, it might look different, although the truths I was attempting to point to would be no less true then than they are now.

Here’s what I know to be true today:

1. Nothing made of thought is real

In Eastern traditions, the real (i.e. “reality”) is deemed to be that which is permanent; illusion is that which is temporal, even if it stays present in time for millenia. Thought is a transient energy, continually changing forms like the trickster god Loki in Norse mythology. So while thought itself is real, nothing created from it has permanence. Which makes it interesting how much of our time (well, my time) is engaged in an attempt to “have” better thinking instead of simply allowing it the time and space to transform.

2. There is an intelligence that will guide us if only we will let it

This has been perhaps the greatest discovery of my own life – that when I stop trying so hard to figure out my life, the intelligence that makes flowers bloom and bodies heal seems to know what’s best for me as well. Some days this is so screamingly obvious to me that the idea of trying to work out what I’ll be doing in six month’s time seems comical; other days it seems so tenuous and mystical that I spend an hour trying to figure out what to have for lunch.

3. An open heart is more important than either of the first two things on my list.

When I was at university, my best friend and I used to spend long hours expounding our philosophies of life and putting the world to rights. Every now and again, usually around 2am or so, we would find a moment of quiet in the midst of our diatribes and one or other of us would comment “You know, if we were getting laid none of this would matter!”

While I’m sure at some level that was just hormones speaking, there was a truth behind it. When we are in love – not necessarily with anyone or anything, simply in the space and feeling of love – the thought-full mind naturally empties and a more wholesome wisdom, peace, and perspective takes its place.

Whether it is possible to live from this deeper place in ourselves all the time is a mystery I am actively engaged in exploring. But what I know to be true is that my experience of life is richer, deeper, and more meaningful when lived with an open heart and a quiet mind.

What are three things you know to be true? What has today’s tip prompted in you? Please share your thoughts and insights on the Inside-Out community page

Have fun, learn heaps, and happy exploring!

With all my love,

Related Articles