Since 1994, I have begun each year by going through a wonderful process developed by Jinny Ditzler called Your Best Year Yet. I would review my achievements and failures from the year before, look for any limiting beliefs that might be holding me back, check in with my values and set my goals for the year ahead. And year after year, I have had my best year yet.
Imagine it’s one year from today and you’ve had your most enjoyable year yet… What’s happened? What have you done? What’s different in your life now?
Somehow, that tiny shift from looking at my “best” year yet to my most enjoyable one shifted something fundamental. My most enjoyable year yet would be filled with things I stopped doing, not new ones that I started. Instead of a new list of achievements to pursue, I found myself with a list of things to let go of. And so I began to look at the activities of my life in a new way.
I created an ABCD grid for myself:
- “A”s were things I wanted to do regardless of whether or not they paid well or worked out the way I hoped.
- “B”s were things I enjoyed doing and would happily say “yes” to if they feel into my lap, but had no desire to try and “make” happen.
- “C”s were things I was only doing for the money
- “D”s were things I just flat out needed to stop doing
Once I had my list, I didn’t really know what to do with it, but I had a sense that I’d glimpsed something significant, so I just sat with it for a week or so, taking it out from time to time and reading back through it, waiting for inspiration to strike. And strike it did…
Suddenly it dawned on me that if I only did my “A” activities, but I did them really, really well, I could actually make as much or more money than I had been making running myself ragged trying to do the whole alphabet. And in that moment, a plan was hatched.
My business manager flew out and we redesigned the business, streamlining things that would no longer be needed and building in structures to support the successful implementation of a straight “A” life. I eliminated the “D”s, started saying no to the “C”s, but left enough time in my schedule to say yes to any “B”s that came along which appealed to me.
And over the past 9 months, as if by design, I have had my most enjoyable year yet. By miles and miles and miles. That’s why I wound up turning down the shot at a national radio show that would have upped my profile but taken all the free time out of my schedule.
And why I’ve created the new retreat, Learning How to Thrive, where people can come together and learn the principles behind creating a wonderful life for themselves. It’s why Supercoach Academy 2012 will be the last one for at least two years, and I’m currently designing advanced programs to support the transformative coaches we’ve already created instead of plowing ahead to create more and more.
It’s also why the thing I’m most looking forward to in the coming months is a road trip with my son, driving down the west coast of America in a Mustang convertible and stopping in at Universities he might want to attend. I do love my work – but even more than that, I love my life.
Earlier this year, I came across a story about the Reverend Fred Craddock, who was visiting family when he struck up an unlikely conversation with an old greyhound dog his niece had recently adopted…
I said to the dog “Are you still racing?”
“No,” he replied
“Well, what was the matter? Did you get too old to race?”
“No, I still had some race in me.”
“Well, what then? Did you not win?”
“I won over a million dollars for my owner.”
“Well, what was it? Bad treatment?”
“Oh, no,” the dog said. “They treated us royally when we were racing.”
“Did you get crippled?”
“Then why?” I pressed. “Why?”
The dog answered, “I quit.”
“Yes,” he said. “I quit.”
“Why did you quit?”
“I just quit because after all that running and running and running, I found out that the rabbit I was chasing wasn’t even real.”
The true joy in life is not in achievement, though achievement certainly can be fun. It is not in fame or fortune, both of which open some doors while closing off others. But if you’re willing to slow down and create a little bit of space, you might find it inside you right now.
And wouldn’t it be a shame to have a wonderful life and not notice?